Over the years I have had many coaching clients, friends and employees who have come to me with this age old frustration. The Bad Boss dilemma comes in many shapes and sizes – from the Manic Micro-Manager to the Ballistic Boss or the Newbie Nice-guy to the Telepathic Communicator. Each comes with their own set of expectations, emotions and needs. There is no simple path to nirvana when dealing with a “bad boss dilemma”. The way we interact and approach people should be as unique as the people themselves. In the end, it really all boils down to you, your behavior and what you have control over. So with that in mind, there are 5 simple steps you can do to help you get on a track to a more peaceful workspace in your workplace.
1. Look at your own behavior and performance. Are any of your boss’s concerns warranted? Are you communicating regularly? Are you working to your full potential? Is your follow up and follow through timely and precise? Do you approach your boss prepared? Do you choose appropriate times for discussion? Are you aware of your boss’s communication style? Do you know how to flex your communication style to interact more effectively? By examining your own behavior, you may find opportunities for impacting your performance and your relationship with your boss.
2. Identify the issues that are bothering you. What is your boss saying or doing that is causing you discomfort, frustration or anger? In other word, what is he or she doing that is making you crazy? Make a list and assess each item using step #3 below.
3. Identify what you have “control over”/CO, “influence over”/IO and “no control”/NC. So for example, if your boss has high expectations for timely reports, that is something you should have control over, whereas the information on the report may be something you have no control over ( you are just the messenger). Or perhaps the report has customer feedback in it and you are in charge of customer service, then you would have influence over the results. Review your list and mark the initials CO, IO or NC next to the issues. Anything with a the letter NC is out of your hands, so your choice is to accept it, live with it, or chose to make an employment change. The other areas with the CO & IO are areas you can work on improving.
4. Assess your options. Now is the time to get creative. Brainstorm what types of actions are available to you for improving the situation. That could range from having a conversation with your boss to clarify expectations, to chatting with Human Resources about inappropriate behavior. It may also include looking for a transfer to a new department& boss or even leaving your company.
5. Create & implement your plan. Now that you have a list of options, it’s time to decide what you are willing to do. Don’t agree to do things you know you aren’t comfortable doing. Make your plan realistic & specific. Remember, the only thing you have absolute control over is your own behavior and decisions.

